“Trrrring…Trrrrring” goes his mobile again…it’s a missed call. He sees, frowns and gets back to work.
5 mins later – “ding dong ding dong…” it’s the office extension now…
Now, if he’s really busy, he ignores that as well…if he happens to be in the mood to talk, he calls back and speaks for a couple of minutes.
And when I ask him how his better half is coping with his absence he says – “She is not happy, everyday she asks me to get back. She always wants to keep talking over the phone/ mails. I don’t know why it is like that with her?! I don’t feel like that, I am fine here. May be it’s because we’ve been married for only 3 months… is that the case? Is it like that in the early months after marriage? Or is it the case with all girls??!” he asks me!!
I force my dumbfounded tongue to speak and find my voice saying – “I think that is the case with anybody who is fondly attached to and misses being with their loved one”
Well, that was the conversation I and my colleague had a couple of days back, while we were away from home for work. I completely identify with his wife; though not to that extent, I still cannot imagine a day where I haven’t spoken to my hubby a couple of times. Thankfully he doesn’t “wonder” about it!
But I have noticed this is the case with many guys married/ in a relationship. They don’t feel the same sense of longing to be connected and communicating, as the girl in question does. What could be the reason for this? Is it because they can get so involved with their work that they can afford to set aside these feelings for a longer stretch of time? Or is it because girls have a higher sense of insecurity? Or is it something that is inherently different in the way guys and girls feel?
Is this another point in favour of the argument that my post-title refers to? 🙂